Jim’s NLP Tips!
May 2004	Volume 3
Visit or write at: www.midwestnlp.com jim@midwestnlp.com Do you have an upcoming training event that you would like to include? Contact me at jim@midwestnlp.com to include yours! See the end of the newsletter for many local upcoming events! Use NLP presuppositions and learn how to enjoy every moment of every day! I believe it to be true when Abe Lincoln said: People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” · The map is not the territory. · Choice is better than no choice! Feature Article-> “In every moment you are a devotee. In every moment you devote your life to something via your awareness.” -Taming Your Gremlin -Rick Carson “NLP…is the art and science of personal excellence. All life coaches should take personal responsibility for acquiring a sound knowledge of NLP basics.” -The Life Coaching Handbook -Curly Martin We can scare our-selves or inspire our-selves…We are architects of our own attitudes and experiences. We design the world by the way we chose to see it. -Barry Neil Kaufman Definition: A statement expressing the essential nature of something More Definitions Upcoming NLP Trainings! -> Upcoming local events: National Guild of Hypnotists Monthly meeting: Tuesday 5/4: 7pm Leidecker Center, Elgin. CCASTD Building your Business forum: Thursday, 6/10 Featuring Stephen Fairely! Go to http://www.ccastd.org/event-040610.html Toastmasters Coaches Elite, Wednesday 5/12 7pm Hinsdale- Wild Oats Market Chicago Coaching Alliance Monthly Meeting: Saturday 5/15: 9am, Hinsdale- Wild Oats Market Coachville Monthly Study Group: 5/25 7-9pm Buffalo Grove. Contact Sandee Abern at sandeeabern@aol.com o Grove, Il. Larry Garrett Hypnosis open forum discussion, Sunday 6/6: 1pm. Chicago 3020 N. Kimball Ave.		IN THIS EDITION! Introduction-Do you want to subscribe? What is NLP? Article: NLP Roots A Tribute: Dr. Richard Bandler Definitions: Matching Rapport More! Upcoming workshops and local events! Introduction-Issue #3!!! Dear friends and associates, Welcome to newsletter #3! Thank you so much for using your time to read on, I so enjoy the pleasure of writing and even more so the pleasure of sharing! This information is for you; to offer the opportunity to increase your options, to offer the opportunity to open up your world to new possibilities; to offer an approach that will reduce the limitations you or others you know may have in their life; to move from a reactive to a proactive way of choosing the life you want to live. Please take the time to read the article entitled “A Tribute: Dr. Richard Bandler and learn more about this creative genius. In this and future monthly e-zines, I will be providing information and articles for those who want to improve their communication skills, learn more about NLP and to keep up to date with various trainings in the industry. If at any time you choose to decline this or future newsletters, simply respond by emailing me with the topic line- “unsubscribe”. Please email with any and all comments and suggestions at jim@midwestnlp.com. Also, if you desire to include an article, comments or other NLP training information, please let me know! This is our world, lets all be a part of it! What is NLP?(Reprint from Volume 1) NLP (NeuroLinguistic Programming) has several definitions: it is an attitude, a methodology, an accelerated learning strategy, the most effective model for communication excellence that exists: it is excellence and magic in communications; a set of principles that opens up a universe of possibilities. NLP is a technology that began in the early 1970’s by two brilliant young men-John Grinder and Richard Bandler. A sometimes overlooked field, over the last 30 years NLP has slowly gained popularity in the fields of hypnosis, therapy, sales, customer service, business, management, leadership and more. It is time to bring NLP into the mainstream. My vision is to do just that: to bring NLP into the mainstream; in business, in service, and more importantly, to see NLP used in education of our teachers and then our children; to increase the use of modeling excellence in all fields, and to create a world in which people want to belong. NLP Roots: A Tribute to Dr. Richard Bandler Dr. Richard Bandler is the creative genius behind NLP. Richard founded NLP, and with the help of John Grinder, created a model, a field of study and a way of life for thousands, perhaps millions of people. Due to NLP, there are various institutes around the world; these institutes train people daily, monthly annually, to learn to live a better life, to learn how to help others to live the kind of life they may not have even dreamed of yet. Dr. Bandler repeatedly talks about the importance of living the kind of life we want, of the endless possibilities that exist for us all, the importance of living each moment the way we want, to direct our brains so that we enjoy every moment of every day and spread this joy of living, this love of life and what life has to offer with others. Hmmmm…sounds like a pretty good idea to me. During a training seminar, the trainers “warned” me and others about “that man”… how he was a bad influence, how he had done terrible things, how his style did not lend itself to learning…. RUBBISH!! While attending a recent set of seminars in Florida, participant after participant shared with me and others how trainers around the country warned them about training with Dr. Bandler; claiming he really did not train people, they wouldn’t learn that he was….well whatever. Luckily for all of us, those people were motivated even more by the warnings, as was I. There is something about the unknown, the forbidden that drives some of us, as you know. Now I must ask… how useful is it for anyone to say that they cannot “really learn” from any situation? Or that a person or their behavior is “bad” or “ineffective”. As I recall, and have learned, the worth of the individual is constant; there is no failure, only feedback; what about requisite variety? Are more choices better than less choices? I would call what some trainers and others have said as creating limitations on their model of the world, and attempting to impose these limitations on others! Is this what the state of some NLP training truly is? Is this the kind of world they are trying to create? Why, I imagine some people warned against those heretics that were teaching hypnosis around the turn of the century… and all those others who used to claim the world was round…or those others who claimed that man could fly!? Now, I must credit a few trainers that I have had the opportunity to talk with that support training with Richard: Judith DeLozier and David Gordon. As well, a recent participant with Robert Dilts also stated that Robert encouraged training with Richard. What of the others? What of the other “trainers” who “warn” against training with Richard or training with those of us who have been certified and promote training as Richard does? Let me say first, that all training that I have had the opportunity to be a part of has been valuable, just as all experiences in our lives are valuable, in some way they have brought us to where we are now. Even those teachers, who I truly thought were wrong, incorrect, or just “way out there” I learned from. I learned from this latter group that there are a lot of people in the world with limiting beliefs, that there is a lot of opportunity for those of us who aspire to and enjoy expanding choice, offering options, being proactive in choosing the kind of life that leads to extreme levels of joy and happiness. Barbara Stepp, Master Trainer of NLP and DHE told me once “There are many people out there that need our help and can benefit from what we have to offer”. This could not be further from the truth. So, for those people who tell you that it may be wrong, or may not be helpful to seek a certain type of training, you too can do what I do. I have a voice that goes off in my head, accompanied by a large picture that says: That’s right! NOT ME!!! None of those limiting beliefs are allowed! Richard has gotten a bad rap. For those of you who know already, Richard's wife passed away one night during the DHE seminar in Florida. It was a sad occasion for us all. One day after, Richard was back in front of the group, talking about Designing Human Engineering. For the next 3 days that I was present, Richard presented as the magician, the wizard, the master that he is. He used examples from his life, from the experiences he had with his wife, with those in his life and how he was preparing and living his life as he and his wife agreed they would. Richard was true to form and seemingly even more heartfelt when talking about the importance of creating the states you want, in designing our experiences and our lives to live each moment of everyday of our lives with a ferocious resolve that he is famous for. Not enough people remember that if it were not for Richard, their life (our lives) would not be the same. I am grateful for Dr. Richard Bandler; grateful for what he has created, for what he continues to create; grateful for his ferocious attitude and all that he offers the universe. As he has said so many times, we are at the beginning of our evolution, and he is at the forefront, leading the way. Definition: Rapport Rapport refers to the presence of trust, harmony and cooperation in a relationship. In any interpersonal communication, there must be some level of rapport in order for influence, understanding etc…; in other words, in order for effective communication to occur. The basic rapport-building pattern is MATCHING. Matching is the process whereby you adjust the same aspects of your own external behavior to approximate those same aspects of the other person’s external behavior. For example, when the other person tilts his/her head to his/her left, you adjust the tilt of your head in a corresponding fashion to match his/her particular movement. The ongoing process of matching is referred to as PACING; that is you move as the other person moves, matching his/her sequence of movements. Mastering the art of matching will develop your ability (and give you choices) to establish rapport with anybody you choose. Remember, elegance is the key to effectiveness. Most people will not consciously notice your behavior, some will. Effectiveness relies on your ability to match or cross match and build unconscious rapport, then lead. Definition: Representational Systems Our experience: The first filter-our 5 senses: seeing, hearing, touching (feeling), smelling and tasting. We code information in our minds through our five sensory systems, experience the world through our senses and then communicate via our experience of the world through and with our 5 senses. Our experience is revealed through our use of predicates, eye accessing cues and group of other signs that enable us to build rapport and influence others by better understanding their model of the world. See more definitions at www.midwestnlp.com/definitions Jim’s Upcoming Trainings: What is NLP? Free introduction Wednesday, June 30^th: 7-9pm, Holiday Inn, Rolling Meadows, IL. Have you ever noticed people that were so influential and persuasive? Were these people born gifted? Did they learn these secrets from some guru? The answer is, most of them do not even realize how they do what they do, but now you can learn these patterns yourself! These models of communication excellence are now available to you! Whether you are in business…in sales…seeking a job…or interviewing job seekers. Parents, teachers, children, business professionals and more benefit from using NLP and so can you. Learn how now! RSVP jim@midwestnlp.com NLP Weekend 2: Getting Results-The Power of Language! Leidecker Center, Elgin IL. 6/5-6/6 9am-6pm Contact Jim for more information at: jim@midwestnlp.com Are you getting the results you want with your clients and customers? Would you like to achieve your goals with more ease? Learn how the magic and power of NLP can help you to achieve the results you want in your personal and professional life quickly and easily! Learn the outcome frame, propulsion systems, the Meta model and more! NLP Weekend 3: Ericksonian Language Patterns- The Language of Influence… Leidecker Center, Elgin IL. 7/17-7/18 9am- 6pm Contact Jim for more information at: jim@midwestnlp.com You have heard of NLP; you have heard of Ericksonian hypnosis. Attend this weekend and learn the powerful language patterns that have helped so many to become masterful communicators! Hypnotists, salespeople, small business owners and more will learn how to multiply their results using these powerful skills. Communication Excellence: Get the results you want! 5 evening seminar, Holiday Inn, Rolling Meadows, IL. Monday Evenings 6-9pm: 7/12, 7/19, 8/2, 8/9, 8/23 *ANYONE CAN LEARN TO BE MORE INFLUENTIAL* It all has to do with how we use our own brain—how we connect our language, its how we use our verbal and non-verbal behavior, and how you can increase your influence! Join and learn how to become exquisite in your communication skills! Other Local Events! ICF EVENT: Transform Your Revenue Statistics: Secret Strategies of Highly Successful Coaches Speaker:  Stephen Fairley—May 10^th, 4-7pm American Academy of Orthopedic Surgeons 6300 N. River Road, Rosemont, IL Go to htp://www.chicagocoaches.com for more information Build a Bigger Business Tele Class Complimentary Tele-Class Tuesday, May 11^th 2004 Learn 6 key strategies for building your business! Contact Janet Mueller at janet@leadingtoday.com for number and information! CCA Monthly Meeting-The Process of Coaching: Speaker Lisa Hoth-Dalton Saturday, 5/15/04: 9:30am-12:00pm Wild Oats Market, 500 E. Ogden Ave. Hinsdale. Contact Michele Knight at mknight@mmkenterprises.com for more information. Emotional Release Systems Saturday, May 15^th, 9am-4pm, Leidecker Center. Contact NGHSchool@aol.com A fast and effective method of tapping meridian points on the body in a series, which will help you overcome emotional obstacles and allow you to experience freedom. This new therapeutic modality has ancient origins with powerful applications for today. Hypno-Coaching & Weight Reduction Program Saturday 5/22 2-5pm. SoderWorld Healing Arts Center and Spa 16W501 Nielson Lane, Hinsdale, 60527 www.soderworldwellness.com Contact Shar Gildersleeve @ 630-455-0260 for more info. Advocating for Your Child Tele-class: Sunday, May 23^rd 2-3pm or 7-8pm A brief overview of the special education system, tips on how to be more in charge when dealing with the schools, information on your rights and ways to make sure your child receives the education they are entitled to. A complimentary tele-class by Educational Advocate and Parent Coach Keri Silk: contact & RSVP silk4stars@comcast.net or 630-750-9388