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Visit or write at: www.midwestnlp.com jim@midwestnlp.com Do you have an upcoming training event that you would like to include? Contact me at jim@midwestnlp.com to include yours! See the end of the newsletter for many local upcoming events! Use NLP presuppositions and learn how to enjoy every moment of every day! · One cannot not
communicate · The meaning of the communication is the response it elicits. Feature Article-> “The best portion of a good man’s life, those little nameless unremembered acts of kindness & love.” -William Wadsworth 'You may have success in life, but
then ask yourself-what kind of life was it? What good was it if you’ve never
done the thing you wanted to do all your life or went where your heart and
soul wanted to go”
-Joseph Campbell Article-> "The nature of people is the
same—it is their habits that separate them.” -Confucius Available
now!
Need a holiday gift idea? Upcoming NLP Trainings! -> “Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart, give yourself to it.” -Buddah “Wisdom begins in wonder” -Socrates Upcoming local events: National Guild of Hypnotists Monthly meeting:
HOLIDAY PARTY!!! Tuesday 12/7 7:30pm Leidecker Center, Getting What You Want: The Art of Living On
Purpose- Open Discussion Call: Call and participate or just listen in! The 1st Wednesday of each month,
Larry Garrett Hypnosis open forum discussion,
Sunday 12/5: 1pm. Toastmasters Coaches Elite: (always the 2nd
Wednesday of the month) Wednesday 12/ Come as a guest! Windy City Professional Speakers -Toastmasters,
Sunday 1/ Coachville Study Group: Tuesday, 11/16: 7-9pm. |
IN THIS
EDITION! Introduction-Welcome To Issue #10! Article: The Structure of Experience Article: Are You Ready For That NLP Stuff? Book Review:Phoenix-Theraputic Patterns
of Milton H. Erickson More! Must see! Upcoming
local workshops & events! Welcome to Issue #10! Happy Holidays!!! As the Holiday Season approaches, let's remember to be grateful for all we have, for who we have, for who we are and who we are becoming. It was just one year ago that two very good friends of mine shared with me their kind words: “thank goodness, now you can do what you really like…” in response to being “downsized” for a second time in just one year. Are you
doing what you really want? In our hustle and bustle lives, I bring to you the question, consistently, with compassion and tenacious resolve: “What do you want?” And in the spirit of all of you getting what you want, and the launching of my new book, I invite all of you to participate in a monthly call: Getting What You Want: The Art of Living
On Purpose. Simply reserve your
spot by calling 847-749-0759 or by clicking: coach@trulyhumancoaching.com To call in dial 781-222-0029, code 890 for
an open discussion on YOU!—All about you getting what you want! Participate
or simply listen in! This is the second
in a series of calls, ALL FREE TO YOU! FREE!--Available on the first Wednesday of
each month7-8pm! I want to thank those of you who took advantage of my Thanksgiving offer of 1 free month of coaching! It has been a wonderful and growing experience! This month I want to
also announce the completion of my
companion workbook for the CD “Presenting to Win”! If you have thought about presenting, are
speaking in front of groups or simply want to enhance your skills and ability
to turn presentations into customer gaining events, the CD and workbook are for
you! You can call to find our
more or simply click on http://www.trulyhumancoaching.com/products.html
to purchase yours today! Please take a few moments to visit the “Local Events” section; there are some great workshops and free events that you can enjoy. Again, have a safe and happy holiday, be grateful and great! Jim Accetta J The Structure of
Experience “Everything
is neither good or bad… it is the thinking of things that make it so.” A wise person once said: things are neither good nor bad; it is the thinking of things that make it so. It is what we think, how we think, the beliefs and values we have that effect our perceptions and determine how we react in our world. Every day we act in ways that exhibit our beliefs, our values, what we want, what is important to us. The things we do, the things we say presuppose certain viewpoints that we hold, either consciously or unconsciously regarding how the world works, what things are right or wrong, good or bad, important or unimportant, etc… When we group these beliefs and values together, they are what make up our model of the world. So what!? Well, as many of you know, I ask the question: “What do you want?” over and over. With “problems” “issues” “challenges”… the question remains: what do you want often followed by, “what do you need to do to get it?” Too often when faced with such things, people want to know “why” they have a problem, or what caused the challenge they have. GREAT! Then they have the problem and a reason for it! How about asking: “what do you want?” and then setting a path to change or achieve your goal or outcome? Can it be
that easy? Can it be that easy? Yes!!! (and no). No, for many people because they do not yet know that they are in control of their own brains, of their own thinking, of what they want to believe to be true in the world. No, because many people continue to view their belief or value from the same perspective from which the belief was formed, their own culture, their own family, their own history! Einstein offers the simple but true statement: A problem cannot be solved from with the same thinking it exists. So, what we need to do is step outside the box, get a new perspective, improve our outlook and frame of reference! Sometimes it’s as easy as a talk with a knowledgeable and caring outside resource, sometimes its reading a good book, sometimes inspiration comes through a piece of music, art or a nice walk! Getting outside the space where the problem exists allows us to gain a different perspective. This, as many of you know, is yet another technique and skill offered through NLP and offered through professional life coaching. In my book “Getting What You Want: The Art of Living on Purpose” the first 3 chapters address just that: How so many of us paint ourselves into a corner with our beliefs—remaining stuck in the corner when we really could turn around, paint ourselves a door or window and get right out of the corner! Next time you believe yourself to be
stuck, upset, or in a problem space, take a new perspective, ANY NEW
PERSPECTIVE and examine the space, examine you in the space and ask from that
new perspective: “What do I notice?” Keep asking yourself this question,
until you are “done” noticing then shift to a new unique perspective (even if
the perspective is unusual, like what would my dog say, or what would a wise
priest or rabbi say). After gaining a
few perspectives, ask yourself: How is
this information useful and what did I learn?
You will be surprised at the outcome!
J A client of mine told me recently, “I don’t think I’m ready for that NLP stuff, what I really want is to be able to build better relationships. I want to be able to be able to get a better read on people, to be able to see when what I am saying is making a difference, to be able to have more of an impact with people.” HOLY COW!
What a perfect place to start! NLP is about the structure of experience. NLP is about communication excellence. Inherent in all my NLP training are the
presuppositions of NLP! All the
trainings we do focus on two main points:
In many parts of the training, we focus on paying attention to others. Paying attention to their words, their body language, and their small and large behaviors that are “the difference that make the difference”. Too often, people are in their own head,
thinking about what to do or say next, rather than paying attention to what
is most important in most communication situations: THE OTHER PERSON! That’s right,
noticing-listening-seeing and simply attending
to the other person and then responding
intentionally with great effectiveness are the signs of and excellent
communicator. How intentional are you in your communication? How intentional do you
want to be? It is a choice, what choices do you want to make? Book Review: Milton H. Erickson was a genius, master hypnotist and model for communication excellence. There have been countless books written about his skills, techniques and abilities focusing on his great mastery of hypnosis. Phoenix, written by David Gordon and Maribeth Meyers-Anderson approaches Erickson’s work from the perspective of therapeutic work, his ability to create therapeutic environments, his ability to build and maintain rapport and his ability to involve clients in creating change in their lives. David and Maribeth approach Erickson’s work as modelers of human communication. They do an excellent job identifying the patterns Erickson used in his creation, organization and utilization of therapeutic interventions. Like NLP and Ericksonian hypnosis, the book covers the notion of generative change and the chapters include: content rapport, behavioral rapport, cultural rapport along with sorting for criteria and frames of reference. The consistent theme throughout the book is that which is taught in all of my NLP workshops, intro’s and writings: that of starting where the client is, understanding and utilizing the clients model of the world to help them to create generative change & the results they want. Although the intended audience for the book are those in the human service or helping professions, the book is applicable to all you who consider yourself professional communicators—all those who communicate with other people in your personal and professional lives… for all of us who want to be even better and more effective in our lives. Upcoming NLP Trainings: 2005 Mark Your Calendars! The following is Call 847-749-0759
for early registration discounts! Ø
Professional
Communication Series: Every 3rd Wednesday in 2005 The Business and Professional Communication Series:
The Business and Professional Communication Series is designed to give
professionals cutting edge tools to enhance their communication
skills, increase their ability to build lasting relationships quickly and
easily and to bond with prospects and customers alike for increased short
and long term business success. The series is divided into 5 evenings which
can be taken separately or combined for the complete series. Are you ready to bring your communication skills to the next level?
Get started NOW! o
January 19th:
Instant Rapport o
February 16th:
Building Lasting Relationships o
March 16th:
Irresistible Phone Skills o
April 20th:
Increasing Phone Sales o
May 18th:
Getting to YES! Ø
Communication
Excellence New Dates! Saturday-Sunday March 26th-27th Have
you ever noticed people that were so influential and persuasive? In any
situation? No matter what? Where these people born gifted? Did they learn
these secrets from some guru? The answer is, most of them do not even realize
how they do what they do, but now you can learn these patterns yourself! *ANYONE CAN LEARN TO BE MORE INFLUENTIAL* It
all has to do with how we use our own brain—how we connect our language, its
how we use our verbal and non-verbal behavior, and how you can increase your
influence! **GAIN THEIR INTEREST, ENTHUSIASM AND DESIRE** Ever
wonder how you can create a sense of wonder and curiosity…a strong desire to
learn and listen even closer to what you are teaching or saying? LEARN NOW what thousands of
others have learned. Gain for yourself the insight that allows you to create
the results you want, in almost any situation Contact Jim at
jim@midwestnlp.com or call 847-749-0759 to sign up NOW!! NLP
Practitioner Certification Training! 3 Intensive Weekends!—Fri-Sun: o
April 8-10 o
April 22-24 o
May 6-8 Upcoming Local Events 21st Century Professional Speakers Boot Camp Saturday December 4th Join
Johnny “The Transition Man” How to Define yourself as a speaker…. How to set your speaking FEES…. How
to help people with no Budget….find Money for You…
How to overcome the typical Objections…….. How to develop Low cost books and CD’s for High
revenue How to find local high fee speaking engagements How to write Money-Making copy…. How to design money making websites that generates
cash for you and so…much more Visit http://www.transitionman.com to register or call 888-255 TMAN Relationship Coaching: Live Radio Broadcast! Wednesday, December 8th Join
Me for a live simulcast discussing “Getting What You Want”, Finding
fulfillment in relationships and more! Callers invited! Do you wish you had been able to attend the ICF International
Conference in Visit: http://www.chicagocoaches.com/DesktopDefault.aspx Tuesday, 12/21; Please
join us in December when our very own, Lisa Hoth Dalton will speak on a
subject that we all have a need for: Marketing: It’s All About Options.
Lisa is a successful coach, writer and speaker. She will tell us how she
had loads of success during her first year as a coach, the methods she used,
etc. Contact: sandee@sandeeabern.com for more
information. Connecting with Your Inner Wisdom Weekly 6 session class, starting Contact Marla Goldberg
847-828-4511 or windspirit333@comcast.net Experience Marla's multi-sensory Guided Imagery Meditation to tap into the heart's wisdom and develop your intuitive 6th sense for practical everyday use. Anyone can develop this skill. Create your dreams! Marla is also offering two additional classes: January 5th January 11th Questions? Call Marla at 847.828.4511 or windspirit333@comcast.net Must pre-register with Whole Foods Deerfield at: 847.444.1900 Fee: $20 per class 20% will be donated to Cancer Research in honor of the late Pamela Rossi |
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