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Visit or write at: www.midwestnlp.com jim@midwestnlp.com Do you have an upcoming training event that you would like to include? Contact me at jim@midwestnlp.com to include yours! See the end of the newsletter for many local upcoming events! Use NLP presuppositions and learn how to enjoy every moment of every day! · All Behavior is useful
in some context · The meaning of the communication is the response it elicits. Feature Article-> “Take charge of your thoughts.” -Plato “The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitude of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.” -William James “We cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life. But we can decide what happens in us, how we take it, what we do with it—and that is what really counts in the end.” -Joseph Fort Feature Article-> "Living well is a conscious
choice that requires a renewed commitment each day -Kim Dalzell, PhD “We don’t have to take life the way it comes to us. By converting our dreams into goals, and our goals into plans, we can design life to come to us the way we want it. We can live our lives on purpose, instead of by chance.” -Dan Zadra “"I
take nothing for granted. I now have only good days or great
days."
-Lance Armstrong
Upcoming NLP Trainings! -> Upcoming local events: National Guild of Hypnotists Monthly meeting:
Tuesday 11/2: Larry Garrett Hypnosis open forum discussion,
Sunday 11/7: 1pm. Toastmasters Coaches Elite, Wednesday 11/10: Come as a guest! Windy City Professional Speakers -Toastmasters,
Sunday 11/14: 6pm Hyatt Regency Oak Brook, 1909 Spring Road, Oak
Brook, IL Come as a guest! Coachville Study Group: Tuesday, 11/16: 7-9pm. Contact: sandee@sandeeabern.com “I don’t have to be what they want me to be.” -Muhammad Ali “Choice, not circumstance, determines your success.” -Frank Vizzare “Vague desires are not goals.” -Rhonda Abrams “A goal is a dream with a time limit.” -Joe Griffith |
IN THIS
EDITION! Introduction-Welcome To Issue #9! Article: The Magic of Beliefs Article: Powerful Questions: Simple and Fun! Web link: 10 Secrets of Success and Inner Peace More! Must see! Upcoming
local workshops & events! Welcome to Issue #9! With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I reflect even more on all we have to be grateful for, all the people in our lives, both past and present with whom I am thankful for having been a part of my life. May your Thanksgiving be filled with love,
joy and happiness... I am also thankful for the publication, printing and availability of my first book which is better referred to as a simple yet valuable guide for living! So many people have told me they would love to coach, to hire a coach (me or someone else) if they only could afford it! SO, I provided a much more economical and simple way to get started! “Getting What You Want: The Art of Living On Purpose” is a basic outline which addresses how people can bypass their limiting beliefs, explore what is truly important to them and begin to take action to make changes that really matter in their personal and professional lives! To find out more, or to purchase copies now go to: http://www.trulyhumancoaching.com/products.html. In this issue I begin by discussing belief in the article “The Magic of Beliefs” and continue the theme of getting what you want by providing you with simple yet powerful questions in the article: “Powerful Questions: Simple and Fun!” I invite you to answer the questions and notice the powerful effect they have! In the same vein of gratitude, getting what you want and making coaching available, I want to invite those of you who have thought about coaching but have not yet taken that step—for a complimentary month of coaching! That’s right, one month on me! For the first 3 people that request, I will provide one month of coaching on any subject you so desire! Please take a few moments to visit the “Local Events” section; there are some great workshops and free events that you can enjoy. Again, have a safe and happy holiday, be grateful and great! Jim Accetta J The Magic of
Beliefs “Everything
is neither good or bad… it is the thinking of things that make it so.” A wise person once said: things are neither good nor bad; it is the thinking of things that make it so. It is what we think, how we think, the beliefs and values we have that effect our perceptions and determine how we react in our world. Every day we act in ways that exhibit our beliefs, our values, what we want, what is important to us. The things we do, the things we say presuppose certain viewpoints that we hold, either consciously or unconsciously regarding how the world works, what things are right or wrong, good or bad, important or unimportant, etc… When we group these beliefs and values together, they are what make up our model of the world. So what!? Well, as many of you know, I ask the question: “What do you want?” over and over. With “problems” “issues” “challenges”… the question remains: what do you want often followed by, “what do you need to do to get it?” Too often when faced with such things, people want to know “why” they have a problem, or what caused the challenge they have. GREAT! Then they have the problem and a reason for it! How about asking: “what do you want?” and then setting a path to change or achieve your goal or outcome? Can it be
that easy? Can it be that easy? Yes!!! (and no). No, for many people because they do not yet know that they are in control of their own brains, of their own thinking, of what they want to believe to be true in the world. No, because many people continue to view their belief or value from the same perspective from which the belief was formed, their own culture, their own family, their own history! Einstein offers the simple but true statement: A problem cannot be solved from with the same thinking it exists. So, what we need to do is step outside the box, get a new perspective, improve our outlook and frame of reference! Sometimes it’s as easy as a talk with a knowledgeable and caring outside resource, sometimes its reading a good book, sometimes inspiration comes through a piece of music, art or a nice walk! Getting outside the space where the problem exists allows us to gain a different perspective. This, as many of you know, is yet another technique and skill offered through NLP and offered through professional life coaching. In my book “Getting What You Want: The Art of Living on Purpose” the first 3 chapters address just that: How so many of us paint ourselves into a corner with our beliefs—remaining stuck in the corner when we really could turn around, paint ourselves a door or window and get right out of the corner! Next time you believe
yourself to be stuck, upset, or in a problem space, take a new perspective,
ANY NEW PERSPECTIVE and examine the space, examine you in the space and ask
from that new perspective: “What do I notice?” Keep asking yourself this question,
until you are “done” noticing then shift to a new unique perspective (even if
the perspective is unusual, like what would my dog say, or what would a wise
priest or rabbi say). After gaining a
few perspectives, ask yourself: How is
this information useful and what did I learn?
You will be surprised at the outcome!
J Simple and fun! Living each day the way we do, we don’t often ask ourselves powerful questions that move us to the next level. Some of these questions can take the form of “what do I really want for my life”, while others are a bit easier to answer like “what do I want to do today that will make the greatest difference in my: career, sales, personal life, family life, etc… SO… let me ask you: What do you want to do today to make a difference in your life? Perhaps another question which will appeal to some of you is: What do you want to do today that will make a difference for someone you love? For some of you who have coaches (or who coach with me), these questions will be very familiar, for some of you, they will be very new! What’s the
difference that makes the difference? In a past article, I wrote about the difference that makes the difference (REFERENCE). So: what will make a difference for you? Let me offer you a few questions to ponder and use in your life. I will ask these intentionally (like there’s another way!) for you ask yourself:
Try these simple yet powerful questions on, either one per day or all in one day and then begin to notice the great effect they have on your own life, in our business and on the lives of others you care for. Commonly in our coaching relationship, these are things we explore daily and weekly. Living on purpose—living the kind of life you truly want will mean making a conscious choice to ask yourself some powerful questions, and then taking action to get what you want. Try it, take action and enjoy! 10 Secrets of Success and Inner Peace: Dr. Wayne Dyer Recently I got a call from someone who attended my Communication Excellence seminar, and after reading my book saying: “Jim, I read Wayne Dyers book The Power of Intention, and you have him beat!” He went on to say how my book was nice and short, easy to use and much more useful! “This is stuff I can use write away!” Well, that was my intention; to write a simple book—a guide for helping people to move past limiting beliefs, to explore their values, what is “truly human” in them; to design and begin to meet your goals! Find out how easy it can by for you and purchase your copy at: http://www.trulyhumancoaching.com/products.html. In the mean time, I ran across more information from Dr. Dyer I want to share with you. 10 secrets of Success and Inner Peace: Dr. Wayne
Dyer www.consciousone.com/friends/index.cfm?PID=798nf=1 Also see www.wisdomflash.com
1. Have a mind that is open to everything with nothing attached 2. Don’t die with the music still in you 3. You can’t give away what you don’t have 4. Embrace silence 5. Give up your personal history 6. You can’t solve a problem with the same mind that created it 7. There are no justified resentments 8. Treat yourself as if you already are what you’d like to be 9. Treasure your divinity 10. Wisdom is avoiding all thoughts that weaken you
All of this is nothing more that a conscious decision on your part to be in charge of your thinking. Be aware at any given moment in your life that you always have a choice about the thoughts that you allow into your mind. The most empowering thoughts you can have are those of peace, joy, love, acceptance and willingness. Powerful, joyful, loving thoughts stem from your willingness to allow the world to be as it is. It is your choice. To see this live go to: www.consciousone.com/friends/index.cfm?PID=798nf=1 Also see www.wisdomflash.com
Upcoming NLP Trainings: 2005 Mark Your Calendars! The following is Ø
Business
Communication Series: …..Wednesday Evenings: o
January 19th:
Instant Rapport o
February 16th:
Building Lasting Relationships o
March 16th: Irresistible
Phone Skills o
April 20th:
Increasing Phone Sales o
May 18th: Getting to
YES! Ø
Communication
Excellence Saturday-Sunday February 26th-27th Ø
NLP
Practitioner Certification Training! 3 Intensive Weekends!—Fri-Sun: o
April 8-10, o
April 22-24 o
May 6-8! Upcoming Local Events iPEC Coaching & Michele Knight — Power of Coaching Tuesday, November 3, special time: Cold Calling Techniques (That Really Work) Thursday November 11th, On November, 11th DEI – North Shore Sales Training’s Todd Caponi will teach you the simple, proven, painless system for setting appointments by phone that will help you beat fear of prospecting forever. You’ll leave the session with:
Visit: http://www.ccastd.org/event-041111.html for more information Singles Seminar: Dating and Dating But Still
Single? Friday November 12th, Join Sandee Abern “The Singles Coach” in an interactive talk all about how to make those dates count! Visit www.sandeeabern.com or write Sandee at sandee@coachingsingles.com for more information. Organization and Relationship Systems Coaching Fundamentals Coaches
Training Institute! Saturday-Sunday 11/13-11/14 This two-day course
provides basic theory and skills for coaching relationship systems. In it,
you'll review the model for Organization and Relationship Systems Coaching
and explore the differences between coaching individuals and coaching
relationships as a "third entity" (the relationship itself). Visit http://www.thecoaches.com/relationship/
for more information. November's Roundtable program
takes us on our first journey inside corporate Tuesday, 11/16; Ken
Zaretzky, ADD Coach will be speaking on: “Strategic Alliances”. Ken is one of
the worlds leading ADD coaches; come hear Ken speak about how strategic
alliances have helped to propel him to the success he has become in the
coaching community. Contact: sandee@sandeeabern.com for more
information.
“It’s Magic” Toastmasters District 30 Fall 2004 Conference Friday-Saturday November 19th & 20th Sheraton Suites
Hotel 121 Four Keynote Speakers, workshops, educational
sessions, fun, networking and more!
Join the world’s largest group of speakers from novice to
professionals for this year’s only District 30 conference. Come for one or both days! Contact Shar
Gildersleeve LLCoaching@aol.com
or to register & for a complete schedule visit http://www.toastofchicago.org/
. National Speakers Association Big Value-Big Results with Jeff Blackman Fabulous Fridays: November 19th Maggiano’s Banquet
Facilities 240 Oakbrook Center, Whether you're a rookie or a veteran, whether you're just thinking about the speaking business or live it 24/7, Jeff Blackman will show you how to generate BIG results and BIG revenue - quickly, ethically, dramatically and in ways that we can't even think of adjectives for! To register or for more information visit: http://www.nsa-il.org/November2004.htm 21st Century Professional Speakers Boot Camp | |||
